Your kind, supportive, challenging and wise approach to therapy has had a very big impact on my life and I’m sure that it will do the same for many other lucky people... Now, I find myself in a new space – calmer and more grounded.
I’ve taken some time to reflect on my journey through therapy with you. You already know how special this process has been to me, and how much I treasure the time I’ve spent with you in therapy, but having finished my recent course of 10 sessions, I wanted to share this with you.
Your kind, supportive, challenging and wise approach to therapy has had a very big impact on my life and I’m sure that it will do the same for many other lucky people.
Where I began
When I began therapy over two years ago, I was consumed by blame, shame, and self-loathing. I held others responsible for how I felt – my mum, past partners – and I internalised every rejection as proof that I was unworthy, unlovable, and not enough.
My behaviours were driven by fear: monitoring, doubting, chasing, and accepting less than I deserved, just to avoid the unbearable void. In our early sessions, I began to understand my core beliefs through the ABC model. I made a journal, faced difficult truths, and slowly began to see that change was possible. I ended relationships that didn’t serve me, began to set boundaries, and started to reclaim control.
We celebrated these turning points, but then came my greatest challenge: a new, chaotic relationship that tested every part of me. Therapy became about survival. Despite knowing the tools, I hadn’t yet embedded them. I swung between self-doubt and defiance; between pain and power. But with your patience and guidance, I stayed the course.
You helped me see the patterns – the addiction to chaos, the need to be needed – and slowly I began to choose differently. The introduction of SIMPLE and the ‘stay on the A-roads’ mantra became anchors in my healing.
Where I am now
Now, I find myself in a new space – calmer and more grounded. Therapy part 3 has been about finding peace, not excitement. I've learned to care without caretaking; to stay on my island, to lead with acceptance. I know I won’t always get it right, but I finally believe I am enough. Not for anyone else – for me.
I can never thank you enough. You’ve been the hero in my story, holding space for me in my darkest moments and celebrating each win along the way. You’ve left a permanent imprint on my life, and I’ll carry your teachings with me always.
All the very best, and thank you again from the bottom of my heart.
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